People have different histories that help determine their paths in life. Are the paths easy or difficult? Here is a piece of my story.
I grew up Catholic and in the Catholic schools in late ‘50’s and 60’s. My interpretation of my experiences and the teachings were: “I am a bad evil person and will have to fast and flog myself my entire life, and maybe I can eek into purgatory.” Part of this would be to live as perfectly perfect as I could. That would be “no mistakes… ever!”
I have moved past that thinking, but this pattern greatly affect my life even today. Meaning, there is no room for mistakes or second chances. This is a pattern in the biology.
So, what to do.
Interestingly, I’ve had some very good work experiences to help me. My last boss was probably the best manager I have ever had. And I have had some very good managers.
If you haven’t guessed, I have ADD (attention deficit) tendencies and no frame of reference for time. Not a particularly good combination. Let’s stack these with the “have to be a perfectionist” mindset. I pretty much get an idea, fill my quiver and shoot in all directions expecting to hit my mark.
Deb (manager) is very methodical. She had a method: discuss, research, make a plan, try something over time, reevaluate and adjust. (No criticism if it didn’t work like we expected-new concept for me). I sometimes found this incredibly frustrating. At the same time, I was fascinated at the process and results. In her way, she broke down the steps and walked with me through to process while respecting my ideas and energy. We did this with my ideas as well as dictates that came from corporate. For me the results were very high quality. I felt supported. I felt that I had much to contribute to our office and our patients.
Sayings…. They are all over the place. Work groups have sayings that come in/out of vogue. The company I retired from had many, many changes over the last three years. One of the sayings was “workflow”. “We have a new workflow.” “We have to update the workflow.” I hated that word. It meant change.
Now that I am retired from my previous career and I am building something new, I sometimes wish I had a “workflow” as I move through all these learning curves.
Lesson. I am going to model some of my new work with Deb and her method in mind. I am going to research, make a plan, try (over time) (make some workflows), reevaluate and adjust, UNTIL I AM SUCCESSFUL! Tis a wonderful gift!
Creating tools for your life’s tool box is a wonderful thing you can give yourself. Sometimes you need a guide. That is what coaching is about. Helping you settle into your “wise within…” and get the answers to your questions.
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